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Welcome to Dr. William G. DeFoore's Monthly E-Newsletter       W.G. DeFoore, Ph.D. October 2008 Vol 2 Issue 10   

The Secret Smile

Waiting quietly, often hiding behind the defensive mask of strength and "I'm okay, I'm fine, I don't need anything" is a smile that wants to see yours. The big secret is that there is a tender heart inside every tough, angry, frightened or stone-faced soul you see. Some of the secret smiles are buried more deeply than others, on the other side of layers of scar tissue and despair--perhaps lingering only on the face of some small, forgotten and hopeful child. Look for the secret smile. Wake yours up and bring it right out onto your face. That's what the other smiles are looking for, waiting for, longing for. I've watched one dear, sweet friend toss her smile out like a lure on a fishing line, skillfully catching and reeling in one surprised and unsuspecting grin after another. Try it, you can do it too.

How To Sleep Better & Exercise More

Way too many people have trouble sleeping. If you are one of these you might want to try this. Dr. Robert Emmons, author of Thanks: How The Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier found that folks that kept a gratitude journal for three weeks experienced these results:

  • Better sleep quality and duration--slept better and longer!
  • More energy--anybody want more energy?
  • Spent more time that a goal for anyone?
To me, and I realize I am biased, this is nothing short of earth-shaking news! Plus, when you start keeping your gratitude journal, you are also likely to get irritated less, be more loving and compassionate with others, and possibly even experience greater financial success. Gratitude and appreciation take you closer to the magnificent, brilliant being that you are at your core. Positive emotion is your best guide to everything you want in life. When you take time to write what you are grateful for and what you appreciate on a regular basis, you are literally re-training your brain out of the ruts of worry, problem-solving and task orientation into the new, dynamic territory of remembering the amazing beauty of yourself, your life and the world around you. This is the true land of opportunity--the uncharted territory of your appreciative mind. Learn more about increasing and maintaining your attitude of gratitude at

  Goodfinding In Unexpected Places

This business of finding the good is not a light-weight cover-up of the "realities" of life. Goodfinding means looking for the good in everything. The true optimist gets her greatest strength from how she responds to the hard times, the failures and the difficulties in life. Whatever is happening in your life that causes you the most worry, concern or doubt, ask yourself, "How can I get stronger, smarter, better because of this?" This takes you right out of the disgruntled victim mode into the best of who you are--the champion of your own cause that can take you to the mountaintops! Speaking of mountaintops, consider the rags-to-riches story of J.K. Rowling's success with the Harry Potter series. Watch this video of her commencement speech at Harvard University--this is part one, and you'll find part two here. Her speech entitled, "The Fringe Benefits of Failure" is funny, refreshing and quite enlightening.

Also, this article in Ode Magazine cites great leaders throughout history, including Henry Ford, Abraham Lincoln and Winston Churchill who used their failures as a springboard to achieving success. In Rowling's words, "Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life." Fortunately, we don't have to hit bottom to succeed, yet we do need and will all experience those "dark nights of the soul" that either destroy us or make us into the magnificent beings we were born to be.

Finding Goodfinding Videos 

The value of watching videos is in the combination of the images, music and words. Listening to beautiful uplifting music while looking at interesting, moving images and watching positive, encouraging phrases move across the screen speaks to multiple aspects of your brain at the same time. This one, for example, uses the ideas expressed in the movie and book entitled, The Secret to inspire you to feel good and take responsibility for creating your own reality. Check it out now! This video emphasizes the power and significance of dreams and creativity to activate your imagination to help you focus on what you want in life. As you watch, relax and let yourself believe in the possibility that you can indeed have what you want and dream of. You are far more powerful than you have ever dreamed! If creating your own successful Internet business is at all a part of your dreams, watch this fun and creative video or check out my devoted web page to learn more.

 Quotes from Great Goodfinders

"Happiness does not depend on outward things, but on the way we see them."
--Leo Tolstoy

"The hours that make us happy make us wise."
--John Mansfield

"Happiness is not a destination. It is a method of life."
--Burton Hills

"Smile, it is the key that fits the lock of everybody's heart."
--Anthony J. D'Angelo

"Most true happiness comes from one's inner life, from the disposition of the mind and soul."
--W.L. Shirer



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