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Welcome to Dr. William G. DeFoore's Monthly E-Newsletter  W.G. DeFoore, Ph.D. September 2009 Vol 3 Issue 9   


What Are The Positive Aspects?

Here is a simple and powerful exercise for your brilliant mind. Whatever is concerning you, whatever is challenging you, look for the positive aspects of the situation and the people. This will shift your focus, and activate an adjustment in your intention and your creative process. You may have heard the Jungian-based aphorism, "What you resist persists." When you make the mental movement to look for the positive aspects, you are stepping away from the resistance that could very well be keeping you stuck in an undesirable scenario.

Try it now with your body and your health. Gently nudge yourself away from the default program of problem-focusing, into what is good, right and working in the magnificent organism of your body. It will respond beautifully when you do this on a consistent basis, providing better health, greater relaxation and a higher energy level. Now try it with a person who you're having issues with. Just relax and look for their positive aspects with the vision of your good heart, and you'll find them all over the place! Notice how you feel when you get good at this, coming closer and closer to who you truly are.

Discoveries In Gratitude


In previous Goodfinding issues, I've talked about the powerful three-part journaling process of Gratitude, Appreciation and Optimism. You simply write first about what you're grateful for in your past, then what you appreciate about your present, and what you're optimistic about in your future. I've been doing this regularly for a couple of months now, and the results have been powerful! The consistent past, present, future focus brings about better and more lasting benefits than any other journaling technique I've used. The most surprising aspect of it has been what has happened in the gratitude part.

Enjoy the journey of reminiscing about good times with friends, favorite cars, homes and possessions. Think back through your relationships and focus on the positive aspects of loved ones. Express your gratitude for your sources of income, and for all of the comfort, freedom and opportunity they have provided. When you've done this for a few minutes, you're ready to write about what you appreciate about now and what you're looking forward to. It's a great way to start every day! Learn more in Dr. Robert Emmons' Thanks: How Practicing Gratitude Can Make You Happier.

  We Are Becoming More Peaceful


What a relief! In this day and age when abundantly accessible media gives the impression of things getting worse in so many ways, a warm wave of comfort might wash over you when you hear words like, "We are becoming more peaceful." Fortunately, it's more than just a nice idea (which has great value in and of itself, by the way). Greater Good Magazine has an article entitled, "Why Is There Peace?" by Harvard professor and Pulitzer Prize nominee Dr. Steven Pinker. The author reports that social scientists have found that "violence has been in decline over long stretches of history, and today we are probably living in the most peaceful moment of our species' time on earth." To me this proves, once again, that the information we get through mainstream news and entertainment is not really "what's going on in the world."

Be wierd, be different, be unusual enough to consider the possibility that human beings are indeed the "noble beast," and despite our incredible range of struggle and turmoil, we are becoming wiser, deeper and stronger as we evolve through time. If the skeptic in your mind is referring to some source right now that proves otherwise, gently nudge it toward the positive aspects of our human journey, and see what happens.


  Want A Goodfinding Coach?


Want to be more consistent in your Goodfinding? Personally, I find that mastering Goodfinding--the practice of gratitude, appreciation and optimism takes me on a wonderful learning and growing journey. I've put together an excellent collection of skills I'd like to share with you if you're interested. Here's how the process works--we will look at your answers to these questions:

  1. What are your goals, dreams and desires in your personal and professional life?
  2. What seems to get in your way of creating what you want?
  3. What will success look like and feel like?
  4. What evidence do you see that shows you that you can and will realize your goals, dreams and desires?
From there, we will build your skills and confidence for believing in yourself and what you want to achieve. Then we will give you the skills to remove the barriers and obstacles that keep getting in your way--and that is huge! Why? Because with the roadblocks out of your path you cannot help flowing powerfully and passionately into everything you want! Like a mighty, rushing stream with the logjam removed, you will flow freely into the life that you were born to live.

Go to the Contact Info in the blue column on your right to learn about a) free 15 minute phone consultations, b) weekly telephone, email or in-person sessions, and c) the 3-day Goodfinding Intensive program. All of your coaching sessions will be with me, Dr. William DeFoore.

 Quotes from Great Goodfinders


"May the love hidden deep inside your heart find the love waiting in your dreams."


"An optimist is the human personification of spring."

--Susan J. Bissonette

"Prepare your mind to receive the best that life has to offer."
--Ernest Holmes

"What sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity. These are but trifles, to be sure; but, scattered along life's pathway, the good they do is inconceivable."
--Joseph Addison




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