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Welcome to Dr. William G. DeFoore's Monthly E-Newsletter       W.G. DeFoore, Ph.D. July 2010 Vol 4 Issue 7  

Connect With Your Good Heart

Consider for a moment that there is great goodness inside you--possibly greater than you have ever imagined. Secretly, inside, you know how hard you've tried and how much you care. Of course, you have fallen short of your ideal picture of who you would like to be, but that is part of the human journey. You want to be happy, and you want those you love to be happy. That, as well as the picture of how you would like to be, all comes from the goodness in your heart.

Taking time to practice your Goodfinding journaling--gratitude for the past, appreciation of the present and optimism about the future--helps to reconnect you with the goodness inside you. When you activate the positive emotion that comes from your good heart, you become smarter, healthier, and more likely to take positive effective action.

Watch this video of four amazing young men singing Leonard Cohen's "Hallelujah" and see if you can feel a stirring in your soul--especially as Kurt Nilson sings the third verse from his own soul--wow! See if you can let your emotions go where his voice will take you.

Empathy And Belonging

Take a few moments of your valuable time to watch a fascinating video about "The Empathic Civilization" by Jeremy Rifkin. You might even feel the tickle in your brain of new neural connections being formed as you watch the graphics and try to follow the concepts as they unfold. The subject matter is especially good. Rifkin's research suggests that the "first drive" in human beings is to belong, necessitating empathy and a sense of connection. This flies in the face of the belief that we are basically aggressive and self-centered as a species.

This video supports the idea of a basic human goodness, stating that "selfhood goes together with empathic development." What does that mean? One interpretation is that we don't really know who we are without meaningful connections with other human beings. Empathy is all about connecting, and that requires that we have love and compassion, because those are the connecting emotions.

Think for a moment how important it is to you to belong. You are the most comfortable, happy and energetic when you are in places and with people where you belong. Those relationships define you, and that's why you put so much time and energy into preserving and nurturing them. There's your good heart again!

Now For Some Fun & Inspiration

Here is an assortment of fun, interesting and downright goofy stuff to warm your good heart and tickle your fancy. Start with Don't Click It!, a fun interactive experience of exploring and learning without a single click of your mouse. Just for fun, though, click at least once, just to see what happens. Now watch this very creative math teacher as he plays with his own shadow...or should I say as his shadow plays with him! Want to explore the Sisteen Chapel right from where you're sitting, with a magnificent choir singing to you the whole time? You can do that right here--be sure and spend a little time on that site and admire the art up close. It's the next best thing to being there.

Now, here's some fun--listen to this "mashup" of three great good-feeling songs: "I'm Yours," "Don't Worry Be Happy" and "Somewhere Over The Rainbow" all mixed for a beautiful outcome. For more musical fun, watch this trailer for "The Mighty Uke," a movie about the ukulele rebirth around the world, and this amazing young man performing a George Harrison favorite. And you will also enjoy this video of Imogen Heap, a young woman who definitely does her own thing!

Connect with your positive emotions with this positive pause video, and the "Love Movie." Both of these are nicely done, and totally in line with the essence of Goodfinding. This article (video on the page) talks about parents teaching their children to "take in the good." I look forward to seeing the kind of adults these kids become! Follow this example and pay attention to and savor the good in your life.

 Quotes from Great Goodfinders

"Never underestimate the power of a group of people who have a dream fueled by enthusiasm."
--Andy Andrews

"The ideals that have lighted my way, and time after time have given me new courage to face life cheerfully, have been Kindness, Beauty, and Truth.
--Albert Einstein

"Our bottom line is joy. We are here to share our joy in the world."
--Vikrambhai Patel

"Life is what we make it, always has been, always will be."
--Grandma Moses

"If music be the food of love, play on."
--William Shakespeare

"Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see."
--Mark Twain



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