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Welcome to Dr. William G. DeFoore's Monthly E-Newsletter       W.G. DeFoore, Ph.D.

July 2011 Vol 5 No. 7  

Your Vision, Your Day, Your Way

Your decision about how to start your day is one of the most important decisions you'll ever make--and you make it every day. Your day is your work of art, your creation, your music and your dance. I strongly encourage you to tune your instrument before you start! By relaxing, reading inspirational, uplifting words, journaling in a focused manner, and picturing the kind of day you want to have, you will be able to set the tone for your day, your way.

In many ways, every day is an athletic event. Yes, that's what I said...think about it. Each day, you have tasks and activities that challenge you mentally, emotionally and physically...just like an athletic event. Our focus here is on the mental game, which is in many ways the most important part, because the emotions and behaviors follow the thoughts. Become a great positive coach for yourself, and keep your sites set on the goals you want to achieve.

Here are some tools to help you: 1) This video takes you through the step-by-step process, and 2) these guided imagery techniques will help you to mentally rehearse exactly the outcomes you want in every situation. The above imagery process deals primarily with stressful situations, but you can easily adapt it to mentally rehearse the kind of day you choose.

What Are You Selling (To Yourself)?

Whether we realize it or not, we are always selling ourselves on an idea, a feeling, or an outcome. Watch your mind for a while, and you'll see what I mean. When you think about another person, you're selling yourself on an idea of who they are, how they act, and what they think about you. When you think of an event, you're selling yourself on how it's going to turn out. And when you get up in the morning, you're selling yourself on how your day is going to go--and most of this is subconscious. We usually buy what we're selling, so you can see that this is very important!

Since we never really know for sure what's coming, how people will act, and how we're going to feel, why not sell yourself on the kind of fabulous outcomes that reflect your heart's desire? In your morning "tuning up" process, picture and imagine yourself feeling good, having fun and doing well in all of your endeavors. Picture other people smiling at you, glad to see you, and helping you reach your goals. Any successful athlete, performer or just plain happy person will tell you that they do this automatically, all of the time. How about this for a new motto: "Expect the best, and get stronger from the rest."

Music And Inspirational Videos

If you can talk, you can sing. And even if you can't talk you can sing...sort of. Watch this fuzzy vocalist as he belts it out "like no one is listening." Now for even more great role models on belting it out, watch these musicians from around the world performing "Gimme Shelter." Forget anything negative you've ever heard about your singing or musical talent, and make a joyful noise any way you can! Music and creative expression have nothing to do with what other people think--it's all about what you feel when you're doing it!

Speaking of creativity, it is always uplifting to learn of a good soul being "discovered." Watch this story of a NYC artist who gets her big break after 30 years. She proves the value of never giving up, as do this 90 year old high school graduate and this woman who completely reinvents herself and earns a college diploma after a brain injury that wiped out all of her memory. And while we're looking at the power of hanging in there, here's a man with no limbs who swims and is a motivational speaker. To conclude this issue, let's look at this article about how anger helps and this video about a woman who forgave the murderer of her son. These last two pieces show the power we have to transform difficulties in our lives into opportunities for growth and happiness.

Okay, let's end on a lighter note...have fun with this smartphone magic and this video of a kitten taking on a pit bull. As the artist and architect of your life, remember that having fun with it all is the most important part!

 Quotes from Great Goodfinders

"The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new lands but seeing with new eyes."
--Marcel Proust

"In the depth of winter, I found that there was in me an invincible summer."

--Albert Camus

"From there to here, and here to there, funny things are everywhere."
-Dr. Seuss

"It takes courage to grow up and turn out to be who you really are."
--E.E. Cummings

"It is very important to generate a good attitude, a good heart, as much as possible. From this, happiness in both the short term and the long term for both yourself and others will come."
--The Dalai Lama



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