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Welcome to Dr. William G. DeFoore's Monthly E-Newsletter       W.G. DeFoore, Ph.D.

December 2011 Vol 5 No. 12  

Feel Happy For Yourself!

I've often pondered how common some sayings are, and how uncommon their opposite is. For example, if you have the ability to feel sorry for yourself (we all do), then you can also feel happy for yourself! This is a matter of stepping aside from your normal stream of consciousness for a moment, and looking at yourself through appreciative eyes. You can do this in your mind, or write it in your journal. It might go something like (this is you talking to you): "I am so happy for you because of..." And fill in the blank with all of the things that lift you up, make your day and keep you going. Here's a video of a little girl named Jessica showing you how to do it. Okay, so it's probably not safe for you to stand on your sink in front of your bathroom mirror, but you get the idea. When you are focused on what's good, right and working in your life, your energy level is higher, your brain works better and you have better immune function. Get good at Goodfinding!

Energetic, Enthusiastic, Engaged

The reason you see so many kids and animals in this newsletter is simple. They know how to be energetic, enthusiastic and engaged. You were that way once, and a part of you still remembers. When you think of the happiest times of your life, they were probably times when you had lots of energy and enthusiasm, and felt totally connected with what you were doing. How would you like to live your life like that all of the time? You can do that. You know the look of total awe and amazement in the eyes of a child? When you practice the art of appreciation on a regular basis, you will be able to look at your every moment with that same child-like joy. We have learned that as adults we're supposed to be serious and "face reality." The only problem with that is that it diminishes our energy, enthusiasm and ability to fully engage with life. Whoever said that being an adult meant being boring, serious and worried? It doesn't have to be that way. You can face anything that happens with a positive attitude, as you will see role modeled by the wise souls in this video.

So how do you do this? You may already know, but just in case, here are some of the basics:

  1. Appreciate and take good care of your body and mind.
  2. Pay as much attention to your mental diet as you do to your physical diet.
  3. Make laughter, fun, play and the expression of love a high priority in your life and practice all of these on a regular, ongoing basis.
  4. Find and focus on a spiritual belief system that brings peace, joy, inspiration and comfort to your heart and soul.

You can do this. You've got what it takes. Set your good heart and your brilliant mind to the task, and you will succeed.

Joyful Reunions, Play & Inspiration

Guaranteed to warm your heart and likely moisten your eyes, watch the joy of this young man greeting his father home from the war, and this young wife getting a wonderful suprise at Chick Fil A. You can see love and gratitude exuding in all directions in those two videos. On another business-related note, I think you'll be quite surprised to find out the latest trend in advertising. Watching that hilarious video, it's hard to imagine how those people could talk with their tongues stuck so far into their cheeks.

I know you've heard of the idea of reinventing yourself, but I think you'll be surprised at how far that can go in this rebirth of an eagle video. While I don't recommend that you knock your beak off or pluck out your feathers, I do suggest that you remember that your magnificent body/mind is constantly renewing, regenerating, revitalizing and rebuilding itself. To demonstrate one person's ability to keep on keeping on, here's 102 year old psychologist Helen Bolgar who is still seeing patients 4 days a week, and loving it. Use resources like this motivational video to keep you focused and inspired to move ahead and never give up, no matter what. Wherever you are, whatever is going on, there is always a higher ground you can step onto. Enjoy this music video by PlayingForChange that is an amazing version of the classic, "Higher Ground." Enjoy the view!

 Quotes from Great Goodfinders

"Hitch your wagon to a star."
--Ralph Waldo Emerson

"If we did the things we are capable of, we would astound ourselves."

Thomas Edison

"The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."
-Eleanor Roosevelt

"Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it."

"Children are our most valuable resource."
--Herbert Hoover



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