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January 2013 Vol 7 No. 1  

Much More Good For You To Find

There is much more good to find
today than ever before. That is true because there are more of us on this planet than ever before, because we are basically good beings, and because we are improving as a species. And apart from our population size, there is always more good than bad. Notice the words in the title, "more good to find." You have to find the good. It won't necessarily jump out and grab your attention. The good in this world is like love...it is powerful yet quiet, ever-present and yet unobtrusive. And there is more now than ever.

When I started this Goodfinding newsletter over seven years ago, I found very few web sites, newsletters and blogs that had a strong positive focus. Now there are so many that I have the luxury of selecting the ones I like best. For example, there are some very positive, beautiful and uplifting Facebook pages that I enjoy following, which I think you'll appreciate as well. Visit Our Beautiful World and Universe, Positivity Toolbox and Our World's View as just a few you have to choose from. If you go to those pages and look around, you'll find links to a lot more great pages you may enjoy. I am always looking for, and therefore finding...good stuff about good people doing good things. What are you looking for? You may never have considered that question. Well, believe me, you're always looking for something, and you will almost always find it. So, look for the good, and you'll find more and more and more. And to underline the value of Goodfinding, read this great article in the Harvard Business Review called, A Simple Way To Increase Your Joy.

Memory Fitness Tools For You

Your memory is like your muscles. If you keep it healthy it will work much better for much longer. In case you don't already know them, I will offer you some tools for improving your memory, and for keeping it healthy as you thrive and expand into the amazing human being you were born to be. Here are the techniques I recommend (and use):

  1. When you're trying to remember something and it's not there, say (out loud or to yourself), "It will come to me," or, "It's not coming to me right now, but it will."
  2. Eliminate "I can't remember" "I forgot" and any negative comments about your memory from your vocabulary.
I learned in Psychology 101 that there is no such thing as "forgetting." We only block access to information in our memory banks, for a variety of reasons. Imagine that there's file room in the back of your mind, where all of your memories are stored. Now picture a little guy sitting by the door of the file room, wearing a green tinted visor and dozing. When you say, "I can't remember," he continues to nap. When you say, "I'm having a senior moment" or "My memory is going bad, I must be getting old," he pulls out his bed roll and lies down for a longer nap. When you say, "It will come to me" or "I'll remember it in a minute," he yawns, gets up, and goes into the file room to retrieve the information you're trying to remember. It works. And, by the way, it will only come to you if it matters. Your mind is brilliant, and it won't waste time retrieving information you don't need. Learn more, including remembering people's names in this free ebook.

Fun, Improv And Empathy

I know you'll enjoy this flash mob orchestra and chorus playing in a city square in Spain...be sure and notice the joy on the faces of onlookers. And while you're in the mood for spontaneous public displays that bring a smile, watch this TED video of Charlie Todd talking about his organization called, "Improv Everywhere," and their country-wide "no pants subway" project. Now gliding into a more sublime version of human creativity, enjoy The Icebook, a paper and shadow theater presentation, and two wonderful films by Constantin Pilavios entitled, What Is That and Small Pleasures. These types of focus on connection and joy are good for us in so many ways, as demonstrated in this article entitled, Doctor Empathy Could Decrease Stress, Pain Sensitivity In Patients.

Now watch the 16th annual Teddy Bear Toss in Calgary, as 21,000 teddy bears rained down onto the hockey rink...making it a little hard to skate! Okay, now for the fun and funny animal videos. These are some very cute Jingle Bell Goats and this beautiful Husky imitating his baby friend--very well, I might add! (Remember, you're improving your immune function by watching these videos.) Let's wrap up this journey of smiles with a dog stealing sleds, a cat and an owl that have become great playmates and friends, and an absolutely beautiful video of a very special child interacting with a very special dog--you may need a tissue.

 Quotes from Great Goodfinders

"What sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity. These are but trifles, to be sure; but scattered along life's pathway, the good they do is inconceivable."
--Joseph Addison

"Sometimes your joy can be the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile is the source of your joy."
--Thich Nhat Hahn

"When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around."

Willie Nelson

"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things."
Robert Brault



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