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Febuary 2013 Vol 7 No. 2  

Push The Envelope Of Your Joy

There is no limit to your capacity for joy. Nothing is too good to be true. When good things happen in your life, say to yourself, "I believe it. And there's more coming." And don't worry...when you find the good in everything that comes your way, you no longer need to be afraid of "getting your hopes up" or being disappointed. Start with your gratitude journaling, and revisit and relive your most joyful past experiences. Spend time, slow down, breathe and savor the goodness of those times. While your mind is focusing on your positive past, your body is benefiting in your present. Practice the art of appreciating every subtle nuance of those memories of love, celebration and inspiration. Saturate yourself in the peace and well being that you have experienced, and you enhance the continuing value that these times hold for you. Now let's look at one of the ways this actually helps you.

Your body is mostly water--50-75%, depending on age and size. With that in mind, look at this beautiful video explaining "water memory." Now combine that with this video showing how water responds to specific emotions and people. Maybe that's one reason that your heart responds (your heart is 75% water) so profoundly to love and appreciation. Do yourself and the waters of the world a favor, and savor, milk and saturate yourself in the joys and beauties of this amazing Universe. 

The Courage To Compliment

Everybody likes a compliment. Maybe the reason there aren't more of them flying around in this world is that it takes courage to come right out and say something you like or appreciate about your friend or loved one. That kind of courage is exactly what you find as you watch this video about Jeremiah, a high school junior who started a Twitter account just for compliments to those worthy or in need. This is truly inspirational leadership, although that was probably not Jeremiah's intention when he started his journey. One reason that giving compliments isn't always easy is that you need to really feel it. Your cup needs to be overflowing from inside, if you're going to be pouring appreciation, encouragement and support into the cups of others. So, start with compliments to yourself, and it will be a whole lot easier to start offering them more freely to others.

Try writing a letter of gratitude to yourself, for how hard you've worked over the years, the efforts you've made, the kindnesses you've shown, and the progress you've made. Now take it a step further, and offer as many compliments to yourself as you can think of. If this doesn't come naturally to  you, go back to Jeremiah's Twitter account to get some ideas. Do this regularly for a while, and I think you'll find yourself naturally and automatically being more complimentary to others. And don't worry, nobody will get a "big head" over this. Our inner critic will make sure our feet stay on the ground.

Smiles, Laughter And Inspiration

To continue our acknowledgment of inspired and inspiring young people, let's focus on Rachel Kroener who goes "beyond the chair" in this Hooplaha video. It is so encouraging and uplifting to learn about youth like these Tennessee homecoming king nominees who gave their crown to a very deserving classmate, and this Louisiana police officer who greatly extends himself in the "service" part of "to protect and serve." When watching movies, do you ever wish for a film that shows kindness, integrity and unconditional love? That is exactly what you will find in the Indie film "Once," starring the musicians who actually perform the absolutely beautiful music you will hear all through the movie.

Ever wonder "How To Win Friends and Influence People?" If so, you'll like this chart giving some great suggestions. And if this ever leads to an argument, just tell the other person, "your argument is irrelephant!" Okay, now we're definitely over into the smiles and laughter part, so let's keep going in that direction with the world's funniest animals (potty humor warning). Sliding gracefully from those heights of hilarity, enjoy this video showing the amazing talent of Ray Bethell as he "romances the air" with three kites simultaneously

 Quotes from Great Goodfinders

"Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine and at last you create what you will."
--George Bernard Shaw

"An optimist is the human personification of spring."
--Daniel Benderwald

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Albert Einstein

" I've found it is the small everyday deeds of ordinary folk that keep the darkness at bay... small acts of kindness, and love."
-Gandalf (J.R.R. Tolkein)



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