W.G. DeFoore, Ph.D. November 2013 Vol 7 No. 11  

Rejuvenate Your Body And Mind

Rejuvenation is natural and ongoing within you, so now let's look at some ways that you can help it do it's thing! The remarkable book entitled Counterclockwise by Ellen Langer tells of a group of older men who became younger (set aside their canes and glasses) as a result of thinking, acting and talking younger. To follow this example, just try thinking of yourself 10 or 20 years younger, what you liked, how you thought, felt and acted. Then think, talk and act as if you were that age now (within reason...). That's what the participants in Langer's study did, and the transformation was remarkable. They became more energetic, walked better, worked harder and took more responsibility for their own well being. Notice areas where you may have resigned to a belief in your decline and/or incapacity. Turn that around, and consider that you can activate rejuvenation, regeneration and revitalization in exactly those areas you believed were in decline. Shift your focus toward renewal, growth and improvement, and your body/mind will follow. Remember, while some decline is real, so are these renewing and rebuilding processes...and the processes you give your attention to will increase. Your mind is far more powerful than you realize, and where it leads, your body will follow.

Think about kids...they're goofy, creative, spontaneous and playful. While it may not be easy to reactivate these in yourself if they've been dormant, take small steps in that direction. Watching the goofy, playful videos in this newsletter will help. And of course, it always helps to exercise, eat healthy and laugh as much as possible! Get started right now with this hilarious video. And plan rejuvenation activities into each day, and while you may not (hopefully) be like Benjamin Buttons, you will find yourself with more energy and optimism.

Make Loving Connections

Meaningful, loving connections with others is so important, that it may just be why we're here. New York photographer Richard Rinaldi has undertaken a surprising and powerful journey in his project called, Touching Strangers. Be sure and watch this video, demonstrating the beauty of his work, and the results for those who participate. The article above suggests that if we act as if we feel good, the good feelings  and actual physical conditions will follow. Rinaldi's courageous and inspiring work shows that if we act as if we are connected to each other, we will actually form connections. It also demonstrates the amazing power of touch. Touch deprivation is an unseen and unacknowledged problem for many people, with far reaching implications for mental, emotional and physical health. The tendency toward isolation is strong in some people, and it is up to us to reach out and touch those who seem to be drifting away. In his classic book Love And Survival: 8 Pathways To Intimacy And Health, Dr. Dean Ornish demonstrates through his research how much we need closeness, intimacy and loving connection to be healthy. Make a list of the people you love, write down what you love about them, and then tell them...preferably while touching them. And be at strangers, and when you can, touch others in a safe, healthy manner. Watch Melinda's story of 365 Days Of Hugs, to see one powerful example. You can do this, or something like it, one small step at a time.

What A Wonderful World

It is indeed a wonderful world. This video takes you on a visual version of this beautiful song, narrated by actor David Attenborough. In keeping with the themes of this edition, we'll  go from the touching to the goofy in our video/story content. It's uplifting to know that sometimes good deeds get unexpected rewards, and pranks can give back. Now meet a Florida teenager who chose to go home and do his homework instead of claiming accolades for saving a newlywed man's life. Learn now about Brian Vickers and Brothers In Strength and their efforts to give great exposure to young musicians, and this amputee cheerleader who will most certainly inspire you. This fun video is actually a commercial for GoldieBlox, a toy company committed to providing young girls the opportunity to be engineers. Soul Pancake and Hooplaha, two regular sources for videos for Goodfinding, had a "kindness battle," and here's a look at the delightful results. I love it when smart, successful people and companies come together to offer a helping hand to the rest of us. Learn how The Khan Academy is partnering with Bank Of America to promote financial literacy (watch the video on this page) with free education. And for further inspiration, watch this Cave Digger documentary, this Japanese band's slo-mo choreography, and how fencing in schools can turn kids lives around. Now for the goofy...check out these great dance moves, and this tongue-in-cheek news video reassurance. Finally, be sure and see The Happy is excellent!

 Quotes from Great Goodfinders

"Optimism is true moral courage."
--Ernest Shackelton

"You have to be faithful to the mystery taking place in your heart."
--Thomas Moore

"People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing – that's why we recommend it daily."

--Zig Ziglar

"The really great (people) make you feel that you, too, can become great."

Mark Twain

"Every artist was first an amateur."

-Ralph Waldo Emerson


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